One, however, that is used frequently as a well-intentioned encouragement to fellow believers in Christ is this: "God doesn't give us more than we can handle." (It is, of course, usually accompanied with a well-meaning yet patronizing pat on the shoulder.) While this expression would indeed provide comfort and encouragement (something we Western Christians seem to be addicted to), it's not actually accurate. In fact, pardon me, but it's total crap.
How do I know this? Well, because there have been more than one occasions in my life about which I can testify that God did in fact give me far more than I can handle...and simply because I was following Him in obedience. And, having made it through those trials, I can tell you it is because the hardship was more than I could bear that I learned to rely on God through a solid faith that sustains through the worst of trials. It had NOTHING to do with my ability to handle it or endure it.
1 Corinthians 1:26-28
"Brothers and sisters, think of what you were when you were called. Not many of you were wise by human standards; not many were influential; not many were of noble birth. But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. God chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things—and the things that are not—to nullify the things that are..."
Paul himself tells us that, as a result of him obediently taking up his cross to obediently follow Jesus, he suffered more than he could endure.
2 Corinthians 1:8-11
"We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about the hardships we suffered in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired even of life. Indeed, in our hearts we felt the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us. On him we have set our HOPE that he will continue to deliver us, as you help us by your prayers. Then many will give thanks on our behalf for the gracious favor granted us in answer to the prayers of many.
Therein lies the key to why God would allow us to walk through something that is beyond our ability to endure, and also the key to how to endure it! TWO keys sustain us: a faith that trusts that the same power of God that raised Jesus from the dead is the same power that will deliver you; AND, the prayers of fellow believers in Christ.
Two years ago we walked through the most difficult trial our family had ever faced. It was
When you take up your cross to follow Him, you WILL suffer. (Don't believe a gospel that says you won't. That's not the gospel.) Living life in obedience to Jesus is neither glamorous nor easy. (By the way, dying on the Cross was also neither.) But we CAN endure if we choose to not fear, choose to trust His love for us, choose to keep our mind not on earthly things but on heavenly, AND let Him supernaturally work out His will through us.
I have no special ability to endure this trial or walk any certain road in life. In fact, I have no special ability in and of myself to parent ten children or help children grieve or provide for them or even love them the way they need to be loved. BUT, because of His power and might and supernatural enabling, I CAN.
Consider yourself blessed next time God gives you something more than you can handle. It's because He loves you. He wants you to fall on Him. Otherwise, He wouldn't even bother. Consider it an honor that He would call you to join in the sufferings of Christ. He is using you for His purposes, and as a bonus in the process, beckoning you to a sweeter place with Him.
If you choose to lay down your life and follow Him, He WILL give you more than you can handle. Count on it. But, know that your reliance on the Rock will allow you a far sweeter and more intimate relationship with Christ than you could ever imagine possible. He will live out His purposes THROUGH you. And you will endure. Because He does. He is the Endurance. Amen. Glory to God.
Romans 5:2-5
"We rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us." (NIV)
"We continue to shout our praise even when we're hemmed in with troubles, because we know how troubles can develop passionate patience in us, and how that patience in turn forges the tempered steel of virtue, keeping us alert for whatever God will do next. In alert expectancy such as this, we're never left feeling shortchanged. Quite the contrary—we can't round up enough containers to hold everything God generously pours into our lives through the Holy Spirit!" (The Message)











